The Way to Wayfinders

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I’m an educator, coach, and mom of two who’s always been drawn to the big questions of life. I took philosophy courses for fun in school. A five-hour chat with an equally curious friend is my idea of a great Friday night. I’ve been figuring out how to do the partner thing with my beloved since 2001, and how to do the parent thing since 2014.

I’m an optimizer. I love a let’s-make-things-even-better project, and what a ton of raw material parenthood gives me for that. In my first pregnancy, I thought I could ‘get ahead’ of the coming changes through planning and ‘expert’ advice. I thought I could minimize and pre-empt changes to my life course.

I failed hard (bet you saw that coming).

Advice from the experts never truly fit my kids/family/life. I couldn’t shake the feeling that I’d lost my way somewhere. I never stopped going during the day, and crashed into bed exhausted each night. I worried that this tired, busy life, with no semblance of work/life balance, was my “new normal.” I worried that one day I’d wake up living a life I’d stumbled into, instead of one I chose.

From the ‘momosphere’ of the internet, it seemed that I was just going to have to accept my new role as a ‘hot mess’: a parent who’d lost some of myself, whose answer to “how are you?” would forevermore be “busy”, and who would always feel a little unsure about how to raise my children because, hey, none of us know what we’re doing, right?

No, not right.

I started writing and wondering about these dilemmas, and I learned that so many of us resist this particular story. More importantly, I learned that sharing our struggles and being honest with our questions makes them feel a lot lighter.

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I became a certified coach practitioner and began helping people re-frame their own narrative.

I learned to ask “why” whenever life laid down a default, and to counter every time my inner critic said, “you can’t just do that” with “well, what if I just did?”

I started digging deep into who I want to be as a person, parent, and partner. I began making small adjustments that don’t seem like much at first, but which add up to enormous shifts in the way I see my daily life, the way I show up for my kids, and the way I feel about my partner.

Wayfinders is where we can do this wondering, re-framing and shifting, together. I’m so happy you’re here.


What part of parenting has you stuck? I’d love to take it apart on the podcast.